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Eternally 12 Syndrome

My friend Colleen and I are both national speakers on issues related to caregiving and aging. While in Washington D.C. to speak at the Aging In America conference we shared a similar challenge in our family dynamics. Though both of … Continue reading

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Me, Mom and Dancing with the Stars

Today is a big day for me.  Nope, it’s not my birthday (that was yesterday)…tonight is the premiere of Dancing with the Stars. For many fans of the show this is exciting, however; for me and my Mom it’s an … Continue reading

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Reconciliation and Your Well-Being

Family and Forgiveness Growing up my family was very close.  In typical Italian style, every Sunday was spent at my grandparent’s home in Chicago where random aunts, uncles and cousins (most of which lived on the same block) gathered for … Continue reading

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Nothing Left Unsaid

My mom recently visited New York and was showing me the pictures of the Ground Zero Memorial. One of my most unsettling thoughts regarding 9/11 was about what was left unsaid. My mind goes to a couple who possibly had … Continue reading

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Guest Post-Keep Your Elders Safe During the Holidays

When the holiday season arrives, it is a whirlwind of activity and then it seems to be over in a flash. As a caregiver to an elderly loved one, the holiday season can be a difficult time. For many caregivers, … Continue reading

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For Aunt Josie

On Thursday, September 26, 2013 my Aunt, whom I had been caring for over the past few years, passed away.  I felt moved to share excerpts from the eulogy I gave at her funeral. The majority of my childhood memories … Continue reading

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Fall is Here…Let the Chaos Begin!

Summer is usually a slower time for most of us.  Though it may seem like there is a lot going on, it is mostly fun focused activities.  The weather is nice and the days are long. The summer is a … Continue reading

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Caution: May Explode Without Warning

A friend called the other day and had no idea what they were about to experience.  Upon asking “how are you?”, I proceeded (for a good 10 minutes straight) to verbally vomit ALL my frustrations and shared with them that … Continue reading

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Permission to Fail

A few years ago I was part of an expert panel discussion on “How to care for yourself while caregiving” through WEGO Health and one of the other panelist, Ben Murphy (@athletdad) shared a great point.  He said that one … Continue reading

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Playing an Old Game in a New Way (In loving Memory of Ed Cutler)

I wrote this several years ago and thought it fitting to repost it in loving memory of my father-in-law Ed Cutler who passed away January 5th. Continue reading

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Boundary Tip #6 – Take Care of Yourself First

This holiday season try to find ways to take care of yourself FIRST.  By doing this you not only enjoy the season but you also teach others around you how to have a more meaning in their season.  By modeling boundaries … Continue reading

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Boundary Tip #2 – Ask for help!

This requires that when we do accept invitations to programs, parties or events, we actually ask other people to help us out with things like picking up mom, dad, Aunt Sally, any older adult in the family who may need a … Continue reading

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Turkey Talk Wednesday – Gobble Gobble

This Thanksgiving be thankful for the turkeys in your life. Continue reading

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Boundary Tip #1 – Just Say No

This is the toughest one yet the best place to start.  The good news is the tips should get easier from here. Many who find themselves saying “yes” before even being asked can feel an overwhelming sense of guilt when having to say no.  … Continue reading

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Boundaries Make for Better Holidays

A certain sense of urgency comes over me as the holidays arrive. Holiday celebrations creates issues of: who to invite; what to serve; how to decorate…the list can go on and on.  Also, this is the time of year that the … Continue reading

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What I Really Want for Christmas

As it is every year, my Mom will call and ask what I want for Christmas.  She is an amazing and generous person and having her for a Mom has spoiled me since childhood.  Each year I would share certain … Continue reading

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$10 Worth of Empowerment

Over the last year I’ve helped my Aunt out as she faces multiple health issues, including driving her to doctor appointments, the grocery store and to some family events.  On many of these junctures she has offered me money to … Continue reading

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Family Vs. Stuff

Recently an acquaintance of mine, Joe, shared that he was “stuck” in his grief. Upon asking some probing questions I found out that shortly before her death his mother gave some jewelry, which Joe referred to as “family heirlooms”, to … Continue reading

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Guest Post: Caregiving for Senior Mesothelioma Patients

The words seem to come out of nowhere. “I have mesothelioma.” When those three words sputter across your loved one’s lips, life changes in ways you don’t know how to imagine. A mesothelioma diagnosis is often terminal. Some patients try … Continue reading

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Tips For The Sandwich Generation

People in the Sandwich Generation are struggling to meet the needs of their growing or adult children and the needs of their aging parents while usually managing a hectic work schedule as well.  Anyone who is sandwiched between two generations … Continue reading

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