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What if…?

“I wish I had met you a few months ago.”  I hear some variation of this phrase weekly from people I meet through both networking and personal events.  The comment comes from people who have experienced family caregiver in some … Continue reading

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Mission Critical

I recently attended a luncheon where they discussed the importance of having a plan in place for a disruptive event.  They were referring to a disruptive event in a company’s computer processing and systems, however; it occurred to me that … Continue reading

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Boobs and Bowel Movements

My sister shared with me that when she called our Aunt to wish her a “Happy Birthday” her reply was “I had a bowel movement today”, to which I commented “well then that was a happy birthday for her wasn’t … Continue reading

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It Was Right in Front of Me in Black and White

As a national speaker I have presented to hundreds of family caregivers throughout the country.  In each presentation I highlight how, as caregivers, we can become task masters; focused on our to-do list more than the people around us.  I … Continue reading

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Fall is Here…Let the Chaos Begin!

Summer is usually a slower time for most of us.  Though it may seem like there is a lot going on, it is mostly fun focused activities.  The weather is nice and the days are long. The summer is a … Continue reading

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What you focus on Expands

A phrase shared by Stedman Graham during his presentation at the 2008 Aging In America conference was: “What you focus on expands”. The phrase instantly brought to mind my friend Holly who had been diagnosed with a rare form of … Continue reading

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Unrealistic Expectations

Each time I travel to Florida I have set the expectation of laying in the tropical sun and returning with a tan that would make the Bain de Sole tan woman jealous. However; the last few trips have been met … Continue reading

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Firefighters approach to Caregiving

While watching one of my favorite shows, NCIS, the medical examiner, Ducky, uses the analogy of a firefighter when discussing the approach to finding a kidnapped girl with Special Agent Gibbs.  “Firefighters never run into a burning building, they walk … Continue reading

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Don’t Panic

It was 8:15am when the call came.  My Aunt’s caregiver was calling to tell me my Aunt had fallen and 911 was called.  I quickly got dressed and headed to the hospital.  Pulling out of the driveway while searching my … Continue reading

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Duty and Honor

On a full flight from Atlanta to Chicago I noticed a soldier was sitting behind me.  As is my custom I thanked him for his service to which he sheepishly responded “thank you”.  A few minutes before take off the … Continue reading

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To Serve and Protect

Just like becoming a member of the US military is a choice, so is it a choice to care for an elderly loved one.  Once that choice is made, you then have a duty serve and protect those you love, … Continue reading

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Permission to Fail

A few years ago I was part of an expert panel discussion on “How to care for yourself while caregiving” through WEGO Health and one of the other panelist, Ben Murphy (@athletdad) shared a great point.  He said that one … Continue reading

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Drive By Advice

At an event for business owners, a friend of mine used the term “drive by advice” in describing how, when starting a business it seems like everyone (even those who have never owned a business) want to give us advice … Continue reading

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Stop Shoulding On Your Family

In the internet age we have immediate access to information that can help increase our brain function, manage health issues and decrease risk for increasing health problems.  Sharing this information with those we love can be helpful in making a … Continue reading

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The Waiting Game

During the last few years I’ve spent in more than my fair share of time in hospital waiting rooms (today will again be one of those days).   As a result I’ve become somewhat of an expert in the waiting experience.   Instead of hording this new-found knowledge … Continue reading

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Pro-Active Crisis Management

During a recent conversation with a friend he shared how frustrated he was that, during a medical crisis with his father-in-law that required emergency surgery; no-one asked any questions of the surgeon about potential future consequences or complications. I’ve often … Continue reading

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Worry Hours

Working in the health care field for the past 20 years I have heard the term “Worry Hours” repeatedly when discussing family caregivers. These hours are between 10pm and 1am when family caregivers, overwhelmed by the burdens of managing  caregiving … Continue reading

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Random Stop Syndrome

While at a conference in Las Vegas, I experience a phenomenon I refer to as “Random Stop Syndrome”.  While walking through the casinos people would come to a sudden and complete stop for no apparent reason setting off a chain … Continue reading

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Encouragement by Mail

I was listening to a sermon message about encouragement and what an amazing gift it is to encourage those around us.  My mother is my best example of this principle.  As a child she would put little notes of encouragement … Continue reading

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Recognize the Signs of Elder Abuse – Guest Post by Dave Singleton

It’s as growing and widespread a problem as it is under-reported and complicated. I’m speaking about elder abuse, which is an epidemic in our country. Why is it under-reported? Many cases involve family or elders in a close relationship with … Continue reading

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