Category Archives: dying

Coping with Loss during the Holidays

The Hallmark movies always conclude with some type of Christmas miracle and joy for the characters in the story, however; in real life many people are experiencing unimaginable grief and loss during this holiday season. The journey of grief seems … Continue reading

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This Job Sucks (and other Important Caregiving Information)

While making visiting with a friend who just lost his sister, he shared how difficult it was for him especially as she had chosen him (above her parents, children and other siblings) to be her Power of Attorney (POA). His … Continue reading

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The power to run the race: A reminder to all caregivers

Chariots of Fire was a great movie. It serves as a reminder that in the midst of any and all hardship, obstacle or circumstance, there is strength readily available. As you watch this YouTube clip, take notice of a great line … Continue reading

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Nothing Left Unsaid

My mom recently visited New York and was showing me the pictures of the Ground Zero Memorial. One of my most unsettling thoughts regarding 9/11 was about what was left unsaid. My mind goes to a couple who possibly had … Continue reading

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A Fundamental Rule of Caregiving (that No one can seem to Follow)

An essential imperative of caregiving is: Take care of yourself.  However; the majority of family caregivers are so busy taking care of others that they neglect to care for themselves.  The sad irony is that if caregivers made it a … Continue reading

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Forgiving Abusive or Neglectful Parents (Part 2)

For many, forgiving parents will undoubtedly be difficult; particularly in cases where a parent was abusive. However, it is in these cases that we must be even more diligent about practicing forgiveness. To not do so and to choose to … Continue reading

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Forgiving our parents: It’s crucial to our well-being (Part 1)

I wanted to re-share this great 2-part post written by Susan Avello. Most parents love their children desperately. There is not much that a mother or father is not willing to do in an effort to love, nurture and protect … Continue reading

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Lessons from Morrie: Learning to appreciate the little things

Great blog post by Susan Avello.  Thought I would re-share. A moving tale of an old man’s last months of life and the old student who returns for his last lesson. Tuesdays with Morrie is the story of “an old … Continue reading

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For Aunt Josie

On Thursday, September 26, 2013 my Aunt, whom I had been caring for over the past few years, passed away.  I felt moved to share excerpts from the eulogy I gave at her funeral. The majority of my childhood memories … Continue reading

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Wrinkles, Memory Loss and Erectile Dysfunction

Every time I turn on the TV I see a commercial for yet another thing I need to be concerned about as I age.  Wrinkles, weight gain, memory loss, chaotic hormones and even thinning eyelashes (not to mention the distressing … Continue reading

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What you focus on Expands

A phrase shared by Stedman Graham during his presentation at the 2008 Aging In America conference was: “What you focus on expands”. The phrase instantly brought to mind my friend Holly who had been diagnosed with a rare form of … Continue reading

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Support for End-of-Life

“People I know who have gone on hospice only lived 2 weeks”.  This was what my step-mother said when we discussed hospice as a care option after the cancer in her lungs had increased in size during her chemo treatment.  … Continue reading

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10 Things To Do When a Love One Passes Away

Whether a millionaire (or hundredaire), after the death of a loved one, caregivers must tend to their estate. Here are some of the initial things to focus on after the death of a loved one: Contact the funeral home – if no … Continue reading

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There’s Got to Be a Morning After

While on vacation I joked about randomly breaking into the song “The Morning After” from the 1972 action-adventure disaster film Poseidon Adventure (ok not so funny while on a cruise ship).  However; it did get me thinking about caregiving (may … Continue reading

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Robin Williams Suicide – Some Sad Realities

Like everyone else I was saddened by the news of Robin Williams death and shocked hearing that he had committed suicide. As a child Mork and Mindy was part of my weekly TV watching schedule (yes I had the rainbow-colored … Continue reading

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She’s Really Gone

The other day I had one of those moments when I realized that my Aunt Josie was dead.  I was cleaning the front room of our house and noticed a picture of us taken at my first book signing after … Continue reading

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2013 – Don’t Let the Door Hit You…

2013 has turned out to be another year full of trials, tribulations and tragedy for me as a family caregiver. The year started out with my Aunt’s diagnosis of bladder cancer which lead over the course of this year to … Continue reading

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The Call

I remember it vividly, it was 11:30pm on March 6, 2005, my husband and I were on our way back from an evening with friends when my cell phone rang.  Recognizing the number, my heart raced as I answered the … Continue reading

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CaregiverLife Radio – Coping with Loss, The Grief Journey

Grief is something we will all experience at some point in our life.  Whether the loss of a job, home, relationship or the death of a loved one, grief is part of the human experience. Please join me today at … Continue reading

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Good Grief

Many people I’ve spoken with about grief think that there is a “time of mourning”. This would suggest a beginning as well as an end. I believe that grief is a journey that has no end date, it simply changes … Continue reading

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