I’m Fine!

FineWhenever someone asks me how I’m doing, I usually have the same response, “fabulous”.  I started using this response several years ago, because I recognize it not only adjusted my mind-set but the responses I received from the person asking were priceless.  Some would follow-up with “Really?”, others would make comments such as “What are you drinking, I want some!”, others would laugh, most would smile.  I became conscious of the idea that what I put out there as far as my attitude during my day is a choice and that the spirit in which I answer will affect those with whom I have come in contact.

Several years ago I was at a wonderful presentation by Greg Risberg on Hugs & Hope.  During the program Greg went though the different hug “techniques” and then talked about the use and meaning of the word “fine”.  Have you ever noticed that in passing conversations when asked how things going, most of us answer “fine”? Recently at a doctor’s appointment when asked how I was feeling I answered “fine”.  We use this word to mean “OK” or “alright” or, if said with clenched teeth to our spouse “you really stepped in it this time buddy” (lol).  Become aware of how often this word is used in our day to day lives by those around you without even realizing it. It’s a passing response to a random question usually asked out of politeness.

Anyway, during his seminar Greg shared his definition of the word “Fine”:

  • Frustrated
  • Irritated
  • Neurotic
  • Exhausted

Sounds more like what most of us are truly feeling right???  So what steps can we take to change our “fine” into “fabulous”?

Points to Ponder:

  • No matter what is going on in the world around you that you cannot control, you can always control your response to it.  Being “fabulous” is a choice that you can make right now and the responses you receive will continue to lighten your spirit.
  • Let your face know what’s going on.  You can’t be fabulous with a sour puss.  Try spending today being conscious of your demeanor and put a smile on your face.  Maybe even say a random “hi” to people you pass in the grocery store who look like they just sucked on a lemon.  Smiles are contagious! (no joke try it!)

When someone tells you they are “fine” respond with “sorry to hear that” and watch how a real conversations evolves from that simple response.  It will affect your life in ways you could not even dream of.

Choose to be fabulous today!  Smile randomly and become contagious!

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About Sue Salach

Sue has a Master's degree in Gerontology and has worked with the elderly and their families for over 30 years and is the Author of "Along Comes Grandpa", a caregiving resource guide, and the novel "If I Walked in Her Shoes". As an ElderCare Expert and Keynote Speaker, Sue employs her comprehensive experience and passion, to educate and promote self-care values to family caregivers and the community at large.
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2 Responses to I’m Fine!

  1. Excellent blog! Do you have any helpful hints for aspiring writers? I’m hoping to start my own site soon but I’m a little lost on everything. Would you propose starting with a free platform like WordPress or go for a paid option? There are so many choices out there that I’m totally confused .. Any tips? Thank you!


    • Sue Salach says:

      WordPress is a great forum to blog. My advice is find something you are passionate about and start writing JUST DO IT! The nice thing about wordpress is you can write and share your thoughts with others. Make sure your posts are no more than 500 words as people tend to not read longer posts. You can do it.


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