Boundary Tip #3 – Order Out!

Many of us have visions of the perfect holiday.  In this imaginary scenario we are dressed in our holiday best and have cooked from scratch the most incredible array of holiday favorites that are all ready at the exact same time and stay the perfect temperature until we area ready to eat them.  All of this cooking is done, of course, without making our kitchen look like something blew up in it. We smile in our dream as all of our preparations went so smoothly we didn’t even know we were cooking.

So this boundary tip may lead some to the realization that their dream of the perfect Martha Stewart holiday out the window; nevertheless this might be the tip that allows some people to have a more holly jolly holiday.

Ordering food, even if it’s not the entire meal, allows you to spend time with those people who you have invited to your home to share in the holiday celebration with you.  Now, knowing how family dynamics can lead many of us to want to hide out in the kitchen, then you should put on your Betty Crocker apron and cook your little heart out!

To the others who buy more food than anyone can possible eat in one much less four sittings, spend your entire day cooking and have never sat down to a hot, much less warm holiday meal while missing out on all of the family fun, this might help.

If the idea of ordering out makes you feel like a complete holiday failure there is another option – ask your guests to bring a side dish.  You can cook the turkey and ask your guest to bring an assigned side dish.  Assigning the items helps to increase variety and decrease duplication.

Food is an important part of our celebrations, however; spending quality time with family and friends is the most important part.  Enjoy the people you have chosen to spend the day with!  Food will be forgotten, people we spend time with will not.

I’m not done yet!  There are more tips to come…

About Sue Salach

Sue has a Master's degree in Gerontology and has worked with the elderly and their families for over 30 years and is the Author of "Along Comes Grandpa", a caregiving resource guide, and the novel "If I Walked in Her Shoes". As an ElderCare Expert and Keynote Speaker, Sue employs her comprehensive experience and passion, to educate and promote self-care values to family caregivers and the community at large.
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  8. says:

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  9. hydrationmatters says:

    Instead of having a fancy catered event for our wedding reception, a close friend coordinated a buffet which was so well thought out that no two dishes were identical. Everyone brought something, unless they had traveled some distance. Most of the meal was provided by our home church fellowship.

    We often forget, as you pointed out, that there are many sources of encouragement and edification during the holidays, and food is only one part of the whole.

    As it relates to our aging loved ones, the most important element for which they should be able to express thankfulness is to know that those who show up on this day will be around as often as possible all year long.

    It is for this closeness that they pray for without ceasing, so that they can have a reason to rejoice always, giving thanks for all good things. They need it. And as the verses in First Thessalonians 5 indicate, this is His will for them and us.


    • Sue Salach says:

      Thanks for sharing. Praying is key to helping caregivers. Knowing God has a plan for us through each season of our lives and He gave us the family we have. He is also the reason for the season!


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