Boundaries Make for Better Holidays

A certain sense of urgency is present as the holiday season arrives.  Connecting with family and friends, along with work and school commitments can quickly spiral us into a season of chaos.  We don’t start the season intending to over-schedule ourselves, yet that is what most of us do.

The question is why?

Unrealistic expectations along with some inherent need to do it all, creates an environment of chaos which doesn’t allow room to set boundaries that can help reduce stress.  Boundaries are the key to creating more meaningful experiences during the holidays.

Instead of running at the speed of light into the New Year, why not try some of the following tips.  They might feel uncomfortable at first, however; with time and practice they can make your holidays and your life more enjoyable.

Tip #1: Just say “no”

Many of us end up committing to things that we don’t have time for, nor do we want to go to.  There is nothing wrong with saying “I’d love to help, but I really need to take some things off of my plate before I put more on,” and leave it at that.  It may feel awkward, but it is much better for your life and your health to take something off of your to-do list than add more on.

Tip #2: Ask for help

When hosting an event, ask other people to help out with things such as picking up an elderly family members or bringing food or beverage items needed.

Tip #3: Order Out

Food is an important part of our celebrations, however; spending quality time with family and friends is the most important part.  Food will be forgotten, people we spend time with will not.

#4: Buy Online

This may take some of the “fun” out of the shopping experience, but having the extra time to spend with family or just relaxing is well worth it!

#5: Make it Meaningful

This year, especially in this economy, find a local charity and donate to them, they need your funding more than most of us need another sweater or music CD.

Tip #6: Take Care of Yourself First

During this hectic season creating boundaries can decrease stress and help us take care of ourselves.

Happy Holidays and a Boundary Filled New Year!

About Sue Salach

Sue has a Master's degree in Gerontology and has worked with the elderly and their families for over 30 years and is the Author of "Along Comes Grandpa", a caregiving resource guide, and the novel "If I Walked in Her Shoes". As an ElderCare Expert and Keynote Speaker, Sue employs her comprehensive experience and passion, to educate and promote self-care values to family caregivers and the community at large.
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2 Responses to Boundaries Make for Better Holidays

  1. Love this post! The holidays are such a special time; I don’t allow others’ expectations or retailers to dictate how they should be experienced. I will always stand up for a joyful November and December and how ever that plays out for me, =)


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